Strained upset

Distressed

Also known as afflicted

Strength 3 of 4

Caught in real struggle, with pain building until it crowds out almost everything else, and a strong pull to find relief, comfort or help.

In the body

  • A tight throat
  • Breath catching or uneven
  • Hands wringing or clutching
  • Tears welling

Needs behind it

When these needs aren’t met

SupportReassuranceEmpathy

Softer and stronger

  1. Bothered
  2. Uncomfortable
  3. Disturbed
  4. Troubled
  5. Unsettled
  6. Distressed
  7. Rattled
  8. Upset
  9. Distraught

Often confused with

Upset

Upset is stirred-up hurt that spills out as tears or a raised voice; distressed is pain that crowds out almost everything else and pulls you to look for relief.

See also

Agitated