Faux feeling A judgement of myself
Unimportant
Not a feeling: a judgement of yourself.
‘I think I do not count for much, to you or to anyone.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Unimportant is a judgement of your own standing: that you do not count for much, to one person or to anyone. It ranks you against others, and a ranking is something you work out, not something you feel. Beneath it you may be sad, hurt or lonely.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs aren’t met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel unimportant.’
When I read the launch email and my name wasn’t in it, I felt sad and lonely, because I need to matter.