Faux feeling A need dressed up as a feeling
Unappreciated
Not a feeling: a need, named as met or missing.
Also known as devalued, undervalued
‘I think what I give is not valued.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Unappreciated takes the need for appreciation and puts ‘un-’ in front of it. It claims that what you give is not valued, which is a conclusion about what goes on in other people’s minds. Name the need plainly and look for the feeling beside it: you might be sad, hurt or frustrated.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs aren’t met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel unappreciated.’
When I handed in the budget I had spent three weeks on and the only reply was ‘received’, I felt hurt and frustrated, because I need appreciation and recognition.