Faux feeling Something done to me
Wanted
Not a feeling: a thought about what someone did.
Also known as welcome, welcomed
‘I think you are glad to have me here.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Wanted is about how glad you believe others are to have you around. It is a reading of their welcome, and ‘I think you want me here’ keeps its meaning intact. When you believe it, what follows is often happiness, ease and a sense of connection.
Feelings underneath
Needs
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel wanted.’
When I got to my desk on my first day and found a card signed by the whole team, I felt happy and connected, because I need belonging and inclusion.