Faux feeling A need dressed up as a feeling
Unseen
Not a feeling: a need, named as met or missing.
Also known as invisible
‘I think nobody notices me or what I bring.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Behind unseen is the need to be seen, said as missing. It claims that nobody notices you or what you bring, which is a reading of other people’s attention rather than of your own state. Ask what is under it and you may find loneliness, sadness or the restless edge of anxiety.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs aren’t met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel unseen.’
When I walked into the reunion and three people I used to sit with asked me to remind them of my name, I felt sad and lonely, because I need belonging and to be seen.