Faux feeling Something done to me
Threatened
Not a feeling: a thought about what someone did.
‘I think you mean to harm me or take something from me.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Threatened can name a real state of alarm, but as a faux feeling it points at someone else: ‘you threatened me’. In that sense it is a reading of their intention to harm you or take something away. The body usually knows the feeling more plainly, as fear, anxiety or tension.
Feelings underneath
Needs
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel threatened.’
When you said I would lose my job if I told anyone about the accounts, I felt afraid and tense, because I need safety and autonomy.