Faux feeling A judgement of myself
Stupid
Not a feeling: a judgement of yourself.
Also known as foolish
‘I think I am not clever, or that I did something senseless.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Stupid is a label you put on yourself, usually straight after a mistake. It sums up your whole mind on the strength of one moment, which makes it an opinion, not a feeling. Look at what is going on in you instead: embarrassed, perhaps, or frustrated, or ashamed.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs aren’t met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel stupid.’
When I sent the email to the whole department instead of just to Priya, I felt embarrassed and frustrated, because I need competence and learning.