Faux feeling Something done to me
Provoked
Not a feeling: a thought about what someone did.
‘I think you are deliberately trying to get a reaction out of me.’
Why it’s not a feeling
To call yourself provoked is to claim you know the other person’s aim: that they set out to get a rise out of you. Try ‘I think you are provoking me’ and the sentence still holds, a sign it is a judgement of their intent. Beneath it there is often anger or irritation, and a wish for some peace.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs aren’t met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel provoked.’
When you repeated my words back to me three times while I was still talking, I felt irritated and angry, because I need respect and peace.