Faux feeling A need dressed up as a feeling
Loved
Not a feeling: a need, named as met or missing.
‘I think you love me and care what happens to me.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Loved names one of the deepest needs, love, and says it is met. It is a belief about another person’s heart: that they care what happens to you. Ask what it is like inside when you believe that, and you may find yourself warm, tender or secure.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs are met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel loved.’
When you drove two hours to sit with me at the hospital, I felt warm and secure, because I need love and connection.