Faux feeling Something done to me
Intimidated
Not a feeling: a thought about what someone did.
‘I think you are trying to frighten me into going along.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Intimidated is a claim about someone’s intent: that they are trying to frighten you into going along with them. ‘You intimidated me’ fits, so the word reads their motives as much as it reports your state. The fear and tension in your body need no proof of what they meant.
Feelings underneath
Needs
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel intimidated.’
When you stood in the doorway with your arms folded and said I’d regret saying no, I felt afraid and tense, because I need safety and autonomy.