Faux feeling Something done to me

Ignored

Not a feeling: a thought about what someone did.

Also known as disregarded

‘I think you are acting as if I am not here or did not speak.’

Why it’s not a feeling

Ignored is a guess about another person’s attention: that they chose not to notice you or not to answer. Put ‘I think’ in place of ‘I feel’ and the sentence still works, so it is a thought. They may not have heard at all, and either way the loneliness or hurt you notice is still yours.

Feelings underneath

Lonely Hurt Sad Embarrassed

Needs

When these needs aren’t met

Connection Inclusion Belonging

Saying it as a feeling

‘I feel ignored.’

When I said good morning twice and you kept looking at your screen, I felt hurt and lonely, because I need connection.