Self-conscious guilt

Remorseful

Also known as contrite, penitent

Strength 3 of 4

Deep, aching sorrow for harm you caused, wishing with your whole heart you could undo it, and wanting to repair whatever can still be repaired.

In the body

A heavy weight in the chest
Tears close to the surface
A bowed head
A throat thick with feeling

Needs behind it

When these needs aren’t met

Integrity Mourning Compassion

Softer and stronger

Often confused with

Guilty is knowing you did wrong and feeling the pull to fix it; remorseful is a deeper sorrow for the harm itself, which can stay even after amends.

See also