Faux feeling Something done to me
Pressured
Not a feeling: a thought about what someone did.
‘I think you are pushing me to decide or act before I am ready.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Pressured says someone is pushing you to decide or act before you are ready. It holds a reading of their urgency and intent, and ‘I think I’m being pressured’ works as well, so it is a thought. In the body this often shows up as tension, anxiety or a growing sense of being overwhelmed.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs aren’t met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel pressured.’
When you said you needed my answer about moving in together by tonight, I felt anxious and overwhelmed, because I need space and choice.