Faux feeling Something done to me
Chosen
Not a feeling: a thought about what someone did.
Also known as picked
‘I think you picked me when you could have picked someone else.’
Why it’s not a feeling
Chosen hinges on another person’s decision: out of all the options, they picked you. Whatever their reasons, the word reports a choice made somewhere outside you. What being picked means to you shapes what you feel, which might be delight, gladness, pride or excitement.
Feelings underneath
Needs
When these needs are met
Saying it as a feeling
‘I feel chosen.’
When you asked me to be godmother to your daughter, I felt delighted and glad, because I need belonging and to matter.